After you have been in relationships that have turned out less desirable for some reason or another, does that inturn mean we sabotage any future great relationships? Time and time again I talk with men and women who tell me they may have let the best “thing” (person) go. In the same regard, we at times feel no matter the greatness, eventually we will mess things up so, why wait till later why not deal with it now. Many of us have been there, the self sabotage is something we all deal with some more often than others. The relationship is so amazing why not spare each party of the hurt now instead of at a later date, just get it over with now. There are those that crave bad relationships, and then there are those that cause drama in a nothing but amazing relationship. What we need to remember is that, WE, write the pages to our own story. We determine the path we will take , the bad and the greatness. Focus on not sabotaging the light at the end of your story. Remember this is your choice. SO to the answer of the question-Do past relationships set us up for a future fall- well the answer is….. only if you let them. If you lay down with your past every night, get up and change your sheets.
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“If you lay down with your past every night, get up and change your sheets.”
Wow, that statement can apply to much more than relationships.
I think part of why some people self-sabotage their relationships is fear of success. They actually fear it will be successfull and they will take all the steps through engagement and marriage and kids. I think they fear they will not be happy with the success.
IMHO.
I love my boyfriend. but i always fight coz i am hurt as he had past sex lives.I never had one so all the ore upset.
can I get rid off it?
Shruti think of it this way, yes he has had other relationship (sexual or not) but he is with you now and not them. Obviously you have something more to offer then the other women have had. That puts you way ahead of them even if they might have had sex.
I’m bored. Who wants to spill their guts on this thread? I mean, any words of wisdom out there for our enlightenment?
It’s all about maturity. You grow out of the bad relationships when you learn how valuable you are.
Good point Base. But I know my fair share of people in their 30’s – 40’s who are still stuck in bad relationships. I think there are 2 main reasons for this. 1 is they have no self worth and feel they can’t do any better and 2 is they’re afraid of being alone. Thing is everyone needs time alone to figure out who they are before they can committ to someone else.
That’s what I said. It’s a maturity level thing. Age does not equal maturity.